When you go in deep into the comfort zone bubble, you become part of the social machinery. Your persona soon seizes to exist. The qualities and skills no longer appear and make a difference
Every first of the month the paycheck is there. You feel protected, safe, but still have a feeling that something big in your life is missing. It resembles a giant black hole. The black hole feeds on the lack of personal realization. You know you can do more and even worse, you know you deserve even more. Achieving the the basic human needs is not enough.
Although many of you have this same feeling, rarely someone has the courage to say it out loud. Rarely one admits to it. Not sure if people think of this as a sign of weakness. I feel that it is the complete opposite.
In that sate of despair, unable to cope with reality, people stay in the same place, miserable, unhappy, without energy. Was the purpose of our life to suck at life?
Even tougher is to start chaining. Stepping out of the social norms can be catastrophic on the individual. To be different is not nice. This may be the single biggest reason why people stay in that comfort zone bubble. Popping it seems extremely scary, unimaginable and often impossible.
Your close friends define you. If you want to be successful, have friends to look up to. Do not get me wrong, we rarely choose our friends based on success, but try to expand your field of acquaintances. When around such people, you discuss constructive things, science, philosophy, problem solving, in other words – you work the mind. Or in other words, courtesy of Life Hack:
The Story of My Personal Hero
Someone very close to me was living in the comfort zone bubble too. Each work day would end in a release of negative energy, sometimes tears and depression on the long run. These results lead to other negative consequences. She had no energy, felt worthless and had absolutely zero confidence in herself.
Useless fights were always around the corner. The cause and objective of each, unknown.
Probably the worst thing about the comfort zone bubble is the constant degradation of your relationships, both professional and personal. You feel like no one really understands what is going on. Although your “friends” always say things to make reduce the “pain”, that only adds to the anxiety. You realize that your “friends” might have stood for something when you had mediocre goals. You still love them. But they are no longer the support that will help you burst the comfort zone bubble.
The real advice can only come from someone who has been there. Someone who has burst the bubble and triumphed. Although she clearly understood the severity of the situation, somehow the comfort zone bubble still continued sucked away the real purpose of life.
The people close to you need the real push. It takes considerable time to help them regain their confidence. To change the way of thinking one day at a time. Sometimes it looks like an impossible feat, but do not forget the purpose. Productive motivation takes considerable patience and pro-activeness. But giving someone the energy to burst the comforts zone bubble is totally worth it.
Afterlife – Bursting The Comfort Zone Bubble
Once you collect the courage to say “I quit!” , the afterlife begins. The door to a completely new world opens up. It is full of ideas, opportunities, new friendships. It is a fertile ground where anything you wish for can thrive.
Constantly remind yourself that what is good for one is not necessarily good for another (read: you). We are all unique and incomparable. We each bring something special to the world. Our life path should be to find what that is.
Do not be afraid to cross the line, try new things, do stuff you never wanted, because you never know if you never try!
Resources and Further Reading
Anxiety Can Bring Out the Best – WSJ.com
The relation of strenght of stimulus to rapidity of habit-formation – Robert M. Yerkes and John D. Dodson (1908) –